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6 tips for NOT dating Russian women
Look around the (online dating) web and you will notice that theonline dating scene is a lot focused on single Russian women andother East European women. The reason that in particular womenfrom these countries are looking for a foreign partner isgenerally known, but will not be discussed in this article. ButI do like to give you some tips when you must NOT dating orcontacting Russian women.
Let me give you 6 valuable tips:
Tip 1. If you are a single man and you don't want to be singleanymore then you probably already are using the Internet as asource to find a new partner. But fun dating, chatting and'playing around' with people from your own culture or country issomething different then being determined to find specific aRussian woman with the one and only purpose: to marry her. Thismeans traveling to Russia (to meet her), possible languagebarrier, learning about the Russian (women) culture, be preparedfor unexpected situations, like money expenses, possible scamsituations (if you are looking in the wrong places) and manymore. If you are not convinced about yourself that this is allworth for you, then don't start dating or contacting Russianwomen. A serious looking Russian woman who is a formal member ofa serious established agency has already prepared herself beforeshe decides to register herself as a possible candidate forserious looking single men from all over the world. She is notlooking for pen pals or everlasting month's of emailcorrespondence, no she is looking for a life partner with onemain purpose: to build a happy family.
Tip 2. If you think that register yourself at some dubious freedating site would be enough to present yourself as a seriouslooking single man, who is looking for a serious marriage mindedRussian woman with the expectation that many women will contactyou first, then don't start to find your future Russian wife inthese places, because you will not find them here. These kind ofsites can be fun of course, but are also hotbeds for possiblescammers. Believe me, I have unfortunately a lot of experiencewith men who started at the wrong places. Be smart and take ahuge head-start by avoiding these places.
Tip 3. There are people who register themselves in men'scatalogs with photographs as if they are looking like 'Tarzan's'or use photo's only wearing swimming shorts, just to impressyoung good looking ladies. And write a biography using 3 lineslike "Hello, my name is [name], I am a single man looking for ayoung beautiful woman who also likes music, going out, havingfun and drive fast cars, if you are interested, then pleasewrite me back" If you identify yourself with that kind ofpersons, then don't contact or try to impress Russian women insuch way. Russian women are not looking for Brad Pittlook-alikes or muscles
like Sylvester Stallone. They are notjudging 'looks' at all, and you will find out why if you takethe trouble to do this the right way.
Tip4. If you think Russian women are looking for any (western)man just because you think they are looking for a new country, abetter life, a wealthy man, no matter if he is 20 years olderthan she is, then please keep on dreaming. They just seekcompatible partners for long term-relationships and marriage andwant to love and be loved, that's all no more, no less!
Tip 5. If you don't have a regular job or (enough) income ordon't have a house/apartment (rent or owned) big enough to livewith a family, or if you have any serious criminal records (I amnot talking about non paid parking tickets), then don't try tobring a Russian woman into your country. You will not succeed.Not because of my personal advise which has nothing to do withthis, but because of the strict regulations, procedures andrules that are imposed by the authorities when you have theintention to immigrate a Russian woman into your country. Pleaseadvise the official USCIS website by yourself:http://uscis.gov/graphics/howdoi/fiance.htm
Tip 6 If you think, that when she finally joins you in yourcountry, you can start living your 'normal' life again and ifyou think she is capable enough to find her own way in your (forher) strange country, to find at once a job, to teach herselfyour language and find by herself new friends and if you thinkshe should be 'thankful' that you have 'pulled her out' her poormafia controlled and corrupted country, then don't start eventhinking about contacting a Russian woman. At least the firstmonth's she will need extra support from you to settle herselfwith you as a 'just married' husband-and-wife couple and she hasto adjust to your country (customs), your culture, yourlanguage, your friends, your colleague's, your shops, your trainand bus schedule, your etc. and that takes time and patiencefrom both of you.
But my (western) husband and I can assure you: It's all worth it!
Please do not think I am some weird arrogant Russian woman anddo understand that I am certainly not trying to discourage youto 'date' Russian women, on the contrary, I only want to giveyou some serious tips about the things that really won't workand if you want to learn more, please visit my website 'Are youcrazy enough to marry a Russian' woman and start reading myadvise chapters: http://www.russian-women-info.com/advise.htm
About the author:
Irina Sbitneva, A Russian woman who owns and operates herwebsite http://www.russian-women-info.com about finding,contacting, meeting and marrying a Russian woman. Irina is aformer scientist of the Institute of Immunology in Moscow. Inthe millennium year she married her (western) husband.
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